Tuesday, November 14, 2017
Staying or Going
Hello, personally my biggest fear about college is whether I should move away or stay home. There are pros and cons to both for me. I am extremely reliant on my parents, so I feel like moving away would help me grow and become better as a person, but then again I’m extremely reliant on them, I don’t even know how to do laundry. If I stayed home I could save all of my money and use it to things I actually want, but if I move away I’ll have to spend my money on all kinds of things. Also, what if I don’t make friends and I spend all of my days by myself, where here I have friends and I know my way around. As you can see I’m very confused and unsure oh what to do. Does anybody else feel the same way or get nervous about the same thing? -Jaelyn Jurado
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I can empathize with your situation and maybe I can help by giving you a bit of information. The pros of staying with parents is that you can save thousands of dollars in rooming, also you can be with your parents to support you. However, you would have restricted freedoms, because parents tend to like to keep their children close to them at all times. Thus, you aren't able to find that independence. On the other hand there is living in college which is more costly not to mention you have to pay for living expenses such as food. In terms of skills laundry and cleaning is very easy to learn since you can easily research it online. However, cooking is difficult even with the help with the internet since you have to put it in practice as well. Also, there is a chance you might get stuck with a horrible roommate too, but if you're willing to spend extra you can get a private room or just ask for a different roommate. In my opinion, its up to you since I have no idea what your situation. However, I can tell you that for myself I am renting a private dorm as well as my parents have offered to pay for everything and said I don't have to work. The only reason why is that I have completed enough APs that I can skip a years worth of college and received over $5k in terms of scholarships. So if I would you I would judge based on money rather than skills, because skills you can learn easily while money is rather difficult to get. As for friends statistics aren't really friendly to that. Statistics show that out of all your high school friends, only less than 10% will stay into adulthood. I can personally confirm this as well as many of my relatives can relate to this. However, there is nothing to be afraid about! Making new friends is part of life and besides if you can make friends from elementary to middle school. Then making new friends in college would be a breeze. Hope this helps! -Bryan Thach
ReplyDeleteHi Jaelyn, if I were going to live on a college campus I would be nervous too, but as life moves on I feel that we should start experiencing everything on our own since hopefully we all plan on living on our own in the near future. What I'm trying to say is that we won't be living with our parents forever and they won't be there through every single situation as so in high school. Next year would be the perfect time to explore and experience new things especially since you will be an adult. I feel as if you won't be the only one struggling with facing the fact that you will pretty much have to go through things on your own. Yes, you can save money by living at home and going to a college near you but if you do go somewhere far you can still get a job nearby or on the campus possibly. It's hard to say what you should do because you made good points. There is still time to think about this situation and I hope you make a decision that will give you happiness! -Juliet Rose Chacon
ReplyDeleteAs I read your post I can relate very much, I have also thought about the possibility of not being able to have everything under control while living on my own in college. Also a small possibility I won't have friends either instead I see myself sitting alone in the campus square eating my sandwich and catching up on last weeks notes missed instead of walking to class with a group of friends I met at college orientations. But I tell myself that its fears I think everyone gets throughout life and we have to learn that once we get to that point in life we have complete control of the situations and we shouldn't fear small things. Throughout life our parents have guided us and we have all depended on them but they still gave us a little space to have a start at becoming independent such as getting a job, picking up household chores, or giving us the ability to have freedom. I think honestly you will be fine if you adventure out and don't stay close to your parents but I also know it can be tough but I believe we all have to do something that strikes a little fear in our heart. Though it may seem scary to leave I believe you can make friends and become successful your endeavors.
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Hi Jaelyn, I am in the same situation, but I have realized that moving away could be a good experience. Although you will have to take on a lot of responsibilities, these responsibilities are what will end up helping you in the future. Things like doing laundry and paying bills are tasks that we will eventually have to take on, so going away to college can help you become accustomed to these tasks, and you will be more prepared for the future. Going to a college away from home definitely has its pros and cons, and yes, going to a college nearby will save a lot of money, but if you decide to move away to college, you can get a job on or off campus. I know that it seems scary to leave home, but I'm sure that you will make a lot of friends and become successful. Don't worry, we are all nervous to leave home, but no matter what decision you make I hope that you are happy. :) -Hannah Kearney
ReplyDeleteEveryone is different, and no option is right for everyone, but for me, I want to live on my own so that I can force myself to be independent and to learn whatever skills I don’t already have. I am thinking about how far from home I want to be. All the schools I’m applying to are at least a couple hours drive away from home. What I’m considering is how often I will be able to visit my family. I can make a two hour drive once or twice a month if I want to. However, if I go really far, visiting my family may require a full day of driving each way or a plane ticket. I think I will end up in southern California, but my family will be moving to Ventura after I graduate, so It’ll still be a long drive.
ReplyDeleteJaelyn, you are not alone in this feeling you have of being alone in the future once you decide which college you plan on attending too. Whether you go far or stay local you have that feeling deep down of confusion and unsure of what you want to do. It is a scary thought that runs through my mind as well, and I seriously thought I was the only one who felt this way. You don't have to worry about making new friends because you are guaranteed to meet another person who expresses the same interest as you. Possibly you'll click with someone you meet and everything will be just fine. Don't let this fear hold you back from exploring new things and new places. You are a friendly person, who will make great friends no matter where you go. Stay positive and be adventurous on colleges you plan on applying too.
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